In the domain of BDSM, submissive individuals, often referred to as “subs”, span a wide spectrum of behaviors. From deeply bonded relationships to unhealthy obsessions, it’s crucial to recognize and understand these variations. This article categorizes submissive behaviors from the most positive and enriching to the most negative and harmful. In sharing my recent personal experience, I’ve highlighted how submissives can sometimes surprise you, both positively and negatively. What we need to recognize is that each submissive is a distinct individual. While some show exceptional commitment, others might be more focused on their own needs and desires.
This is a sample spectrum ranging from the ideal, dream submissive to a presence that negatively impacts your life.
- The Dedicated Submissive: This is the most enriching submissive role, where a unique bond is established between the Dominant and the submissive after years of service. The sub lives to serve their Dominant, showing unyielding dedication, deep trust, and unwavering obedience. The relationship grows beyond just the BDSM dynamics, fostering a deep connection.
- The Exclusively Committed Submissive: Exclusively committed subs demonstrate a high level of commitment and loyalty to their Dominant. They exhibit a high standard of service, dedication, and obedience, remaining exclusive to their chosen Dominant.
- The Potential D/s: These submissives show promising traits of dedication and service. They strive to go the extra mile for their Dominant, prioritizing their needs, providing thoughtful gifts, and consistently checking on their well-being. This submissive demonstrates potential for a deeper D/s relationship.
- The Positive Client: This kind of sub is actively engaging on the Dominant’s social media posts, occasionally booking sessions, and generally contributing positively to the community. They are a valuable part of the Dominant’s clientele and offer potential for growth.
- The Regular Client: These individuals book sessions or make purchases without indicating a deeper commitment. They respect professional boundaries, contribute to the Dominant’s business, and may or may not return for future sessions.
- The Passive Participant: This type of submissive often likes and engages with the Dominant’s social media content, occasionally sends gifts, and may leave kind messages. While they’re less committed, they contribute positively to the Domme’s life and business.
- The Lurker: Lurkers frequently like posts and send messages without any intent to book a session. While they do not negatively affect the Domme, they also do not contribute.
- The Boundary Crosser: These individuals continuously demand attention and do not respect professional boundaries. Their behavior can be disruptive and exhausting for the Dominant.
- The Fantasy Pusher: This type of submissive constantly pushes their fantasies on the Dominant without recognizing her as a human being. They persistently send messages even when the Dominant does not reply, often leading to them being blocked due to their disrespect and dehumanizing behavior.
- The Dangerous Stalker: This is the most harmful type of individual within the BDSM community. They engage in behaviors such as lying, threats, harassment, and stalking, making them a serious threat to the safety and well-being of the Dominant.
Recognizing these submissive behaviors is key for a healthy BDSM dynamic. It is important for all involved parties to uphold respect, consent, and communication to ensure a beneficial and safe experience. If you find yourself on the lower end of this spectrum, it’s important to reassess your behavior and work towards a more respectful and positive interaction.
My recent personal experience:
Throughout my professional journey, I’ve guided numerous submissives, pouring immense time and effort into their growth and self-discovery. I’ve consistently maintained contact, frequently on a daily basis, and have been particularly involved with those who wished to intertwine their exploration of gender expression with BDSM. It’s obvious that many submissives require a substantial amount of my attention as their Domme. Provided that the give-and-take is balanced, I see no issue with this.
However, the real test of a submissive’s loyalty shows up during tough personal times. When I had my recent surgery, the response from my submissives was eye-opening. While some didn’t even send a simple postcard or check how I was doing, others showed incredible support. They expressed their worry and care and also show this through sending cards, money, gifts, flowers, and balloons.
This difference showed a key truth about D/s relationships: you can often see how dedicated a submissive truly is during times of trouble in a Dominant’s life. It’s during these times that you can really tell who your loyal submissives are.