General Queries

1. Are beginners welcome to visit you?
   Of course. Whether you’re a seasoned veteran or a total newbie just starting out in the world of BDSM, you are welcome to come see me.
   
   
2. Is discretion guaranteed?
   Complete confidentiality and discretion are guaranteed. No one other than us will know what we talked about or what you experienced. If requested a confidentiality agreement can be signed before the session starts.
   
   
3. What gender and ages do you see?
   You have to be 18 years or older. I welcome any gender with open arms
   
   
4. I am older/not in the best shape or disabled. Can I come for a session?
   I’m not concerned about age, shape, race or gender. If you are older or have health issues or mobility problems, just let me know when we connect so that I can make sure you are comfortable during the session.
   
   
5.  Why do I have to pay for a session?
   I’m a professional Dominatrix with over 18 years of experience, internationally published, and a columnist for the oldest fetish magazine in the Benelux. I also participate in podcasts. Beyond my Domme work, I am a therapist and coach, specializing in kink coaching for individuals and couples. I am currently studying sexology, certified in body language, and am a (C)PTSD counselor. I guide individuals recovering from toxic relationships, particularly those involving BPD and NPD, and serve as a religious trauma coach, focusing on ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses. A large part of my practice is dedicated to the LGBTQIA+ community. Additionally, I am a gender transformation specialist and provide cross-dressing and transition coaching at Trans Makeover and Trans Academy. My extensive knowledge and diverse skill set ensure a deeply tailored experience.
   
   Each session has a fixed contribution rate, as outlined on my website. This contribution supports the sustainability of my business and covers the extensive time and resources dedicated to offering a top-quality experience, including:
   
   • Marketing and Maintenance:
   I invest countless hours in marketing, maintaining and updating my websites, and producing content, including video editing and photography, to ensure you can easily find me online.
   
   • Photography:
   You may have seen my extensive collection of high-quality, freely available photos. We use professional equipment, requiring significant financial investment.
   
   • Workspace:
   I maintain a discreet and spacious studio with a playroom, pink guestroom, cross-dress walkin closet, and office. This fully equipped workspace includes specialized gear for sessions,and don’t forget the costs for rent, utilities, insurance, and security.
   
   • Gender Transformation Wardrobe:
   I offer a broad selection of clothing (sizes XS to 4XL), makeup, shoes (EU sizes 39–46), over 50 wigs in various styles and colors, and accessories, with continued investment in high-quality pieces.
   
   • Personal Attire and Grooming:
   My own wardrobe includes designer items for worship sessions, alongside skincare, manicure, and pedicure supplies to ensure I’m at my best for each session.
   
   • Session Preparation and Client Engagement:
   I take time to understand each client’s needs and create personalized coaching plans to guide them through BDSM experiences, MtF makeovers, couples coaching, cross-dressing, or transition coaching etc.
   
   • Sanitation:
   Health and cleanliness are top priorities, after every use we wash the wigs, clothing, and equipment, disinfect makeup brushes etc. Steamclean furniture on regular base. Plus we use desinfection lamps and a UV-C HEPA-13 filtration system for air quality.
   
   • Professional Expertise:
   My studies in psychology, human anatomy, and body language, along with ongoing education, contribute to the depth and quality of my sessions.
   
   I am a professional, and like any career, my time and services carry value. Quality services come with substantial overhead, and contributions are essential for maintaining the high standards my clients expect. I continuously invest in creating the best experience, so compensation for my expertise and efforts is both necessary and deserved.
6. My question isn’t listed, can I ask about it?
   I don’t mind receiving any questions as long as they are asked respectfully. Please do bear in mind that many questions are answered on this website. So please read it carefully.
   
   You can send me a question via my contact form.

THE SESSION

1. What are safewords?
   When playing BDSM, a safeword is a code word, string of code words, or other sign used by a person to communicate their physical or emotional state, especially when approaching or breaching a physical, emotional, or moral boundary. Some safewords stop the play entirely, while others indicate willingness to continue at a reduced intensity.
   During these sessions you can always call out one of the safe words: green (go on), orange (proceed with caution), red (stop immediately).
   
   
2. How should I address you?
   Lady, Milady, Lady Lux or Mistress.
   
   
3. Where are you located?
   I provide sessions in Capelle aan den IJssel, The Netherlands. In a spacious private apartment well-suited for a BDSM session.
   
   Private parking available. Walking distance from public transportation (METRO).
   
   
4. What clothing do you wear during a session?
   Most of the time I’m dressed in a classy black dress or skirt with pretty top.
   
   Classy leather ensemble, in a suit, jacket with skirt is also an option, White blouse with leather skirt, For ponyplay a matching attire, or for the ones into this a Victorian style attire.
   
   I also have a huge collection of shoes so if there is an interest in a specific kind or brand let me know beforehand.
   
   I will not dress in latex, lingerie or slutty cliché Domme outfits for you.

BOUNDARIES OF LUX

1. Are there things you don’t do?
   No pegging, anal play, forced bi.
   No sexual acts what so ever.
   No sounding, no face sitting,
   No inappropriate touching (You will not touch yourself inappropriately in the presence of The Lady Lux).
   No CBT
   No urine or feces play
   No needle and medical play
   No latex
   No use of drugs, poppers, or excessive alcohol
   No Race play
   No Wrestling
   
   
2. Can I have sex with you?
   No. I am a Dominatrix and not an escort. During my sessions no sexual acts will take place whatsoever.
   
   Read the “Things I don’t do” on my sessions page.
3. Can I pay you extra to do things that your site say’s you don’t?
   No. This will only end up having your session request denied.
   
   

The Lady Lux